Free Island

Free Bxtch #ShoeoftheWeek

Since the much-anticipated drop of her newest fashion endeavor, Rihanna’s River Island line has been selling items like crazy. Maybe it’s because of the success of the ”Diamonds” singer seventh album and maybe it’s not. What we do know is that Rihanna lended her trendsetting style to an edgy collection like only she could!

This week, we’re shining light on a shoe that you can’t even buy unless you’re actually in London on Oxford street. What I’m saying is; it’s not available online anymore. That doesn’t mean it won’t be back, it just means you can’t get it right now…unless you’re super cool with someone ine London who can grab a pair for you.

Earlier, I mentioned that the collection was “edgy.” I’m a great describer of things; edgy is the perfect word for the look of Rihanna’s River Island line. Shoes from the line are no exception, they’re lace-up, platformed and honey, they have cut-outs. You see, Rih Rih made it so that you have absolutely no problem walking in any place like you “own a h*e.” I could go on for days with the Rihanna song title/lyrics puns.

Meanwhile, enjoy these hot, free bxtch-approved shoes by Rihanna for River Island. You can grab a peek of these and the entire collection here . How would you wear them?

-Naj

Clones: How Many of Us Have Them?

Ok, so we may not have any. But what we do know is that they exist. They’re everywhere! Hybrid versions of Basketball Wives and Hip Hop girlfriends are literally all over the place.
Ugh, enough already. Just because I see it on television does NOT mean I want to see the clones in the club, mall, church, college campus or at work. There is way too much technology and creativity around for everyone to be looking the same.

Here’s an example: the pointy nails… I hate ‘em. Those nails are strictly for top-of-the-line fashion gurus who have credentials. Now, let me make this clear; I’m not saying a regular girl can’t wear them, but wear them for you, not because of what someone else is doing. The freshman who just went away to college hoping to find herself; they’re not for her.
One of the main issues with women today: they have no individuality. The majority feels as though they all need to have an ass so fat that SOMEBODY needs a lap dance, but then wonder why they’re single, still getting disrespected and sincerely hoping somebody, anybody will put a ring on it. It’s mindsets like that, doing what other women do, that will have you counting other’s blessings and wondering why their way of life just isn’t working for you. Have you ever heard the saying “what you eat don’t make me shit”? I wish more young women would heed this saying and find their own paths. What you may see on television or what the next girl is doing may not be right for you or even in your league. I see so many girls, and yes I have to say girls because real women have a mind of their own and make decisions based on their own lifestyles and not just to create a portrayal of someone else’s.
So many girls live beyond their means to rock a Gucci or Louis bag and don’t have a penny in the bank or a pot to piss in or a window to throw it out of. I see this every day and wonder if they will be able to retire off that bag or be able to pay for their kid’s college fund.
I’m all for fashion and the finer things in life, but there comes a time where we have to set that aside, focus on the important things and not the material. This is what separates the girls from the women, the motivated from the materialistic and the free bxtches from the followers.
It seems that media has inspired young women everywhere to look and act the same. When we say clones, we mean it. Who wants to wife or befriend someone who models themselves behind a television personality or pop music singer? My guess: NO ONE.
No, it’s not wrong to wear your weave, rock your Louis and paint your nails. Just remember everything you do is far more interesting when you embrace individuality. There is no shame in being different.
Today we’re seeing clones everywhere we look, girls who like to play “Monkey Se, Monkey Do” every day of their lives. Embrace differences and let the things that make you different also make you shine.

-Nae

#FreeBxtchFeatures: URBN SLVG

I love being in the fashion program at school it gives me a chance to meet amazing business women. One of them is Ashley Jayde one of the owners of UrbN SlvG, a unique vintage online boutique, they provide custom vintage items and amazing apparel as well such as leggings, crop tops, jewelry, and dresses. Her apparel is unique and eye-catching. I’ve purchased a few things from her as well, and something as unique comes at such a great price! UrbN SlvG also has some great deals if you follow them on their instagram @urbn_slvg.

Here are some photos from their online store.

Shredded $15

Lulie $23

Bad Triple Finger Ring $16

Black Bondage $30

Minnie $15

Layla $25

Jayde $25

Make sure you check out UrbN SlvG! and on instagam @urbn_slvg

#Quotes: FAITH & FEAR.

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine as children do. It’s not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own lights shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we become liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. ”

Without faith, you chose to settle, when you settle you chose to live with fear inside you. Faith is the leap that you take when you are afraid, you just say “Fuccccckkk it.” You might roll against the punches thrown at you, or what everyone says you SHOULD do…but instead you trust your instincts which is the fear of many. Your instincts are your dreams, it’s the intuition you have that tells you to go against what everyone is telling you to do. Having faith in your choices is a beautiful feeling it, liberates you especially when you make it thru at the end. That’s when you are in #FREEBXTCH mode, or become an unstoppable force.

“Somehow I rise above my problems and stay here
Yeah, and I hope the picture painted clear
If you heart filled with faith then you can’t fear
Wonder how I’ve faced years and I’m still chillin’?
Easily, let go and let god deal with it.” TIP – No Matter What

Once you take that leap, that loss, or that jump, you may ask yourself was it really that scary? Was it really that heartbreaking? Hell yeah! But you made it thru! There was an end to it, and you may have cried till you felt your heart drop to your gut, or thought you had it in the bag but failed it, or maybe you didn’t get accepted and now your stuck in the middle like ‘what the FUCK..’ but YOU made it.. and sometimes technically, you might have been better off. I hate to turn into a a quote throwing bxtch, but I just have to inspire you guys today.

“Mistakes lead to opportunities that you might not have ever met, and they give a shape to your life that is richer and more satisfying than any premeditated plan could find.”

You may not see it now, but there is always a will and a way. Face your fears, and the nay-sayers.. I faced mine and I am still facing them today, I use the doubts as fuel when I get on empty. Sometimes I love the doubts, they ignite something in me that keeps going.

Happy New Year to my readers, may you continue to chance your faith and instincts.

XO.

Jennifer Lopez: Teeology – Limited Edition Luxury Tees

Jennifer Lopez has always been all about her business, that’s why it’s no surprise that she is the founder and chief creator of Teeology a site that has limited edition luxury tees. Shirts are designed by various designers and voted on by site visitors. The winning shirts are posted in their online store, for a limited amount of time. The shirts are pretty cute, I’m a huge fan of street-wear and the shirts aren’t pricey at all.

Here are some of my favorite shirts & looks:

$28.50 Lover & Fighter Tee

$34.50 Truly, Madly, Deeply

$29.50 Office Attire

$28.50 Dandy Suspenders

$24.95 Go Girl

$28.50 Love Is Blind

You can check out Teeology at Teeology.com

Commercialized Life

In an effort to commercialize Free Bxtch Island, since other bxtches can’t handle the word BITCH. I decided to take it out and put the bxtch there herself. We are still FREEBXTCHISLAND AKA FREE ISLAND AKA LIVEFREEISLAND.

Peep our new flyers, we will be a sponsor at the Student Fashion Association’s Charity Fashion Show.

Click below to purchase tickets online.

The New Fake ‘I Love You’

I miss you is such a fakely (if that’s even a word) used phrase throughout this year. I’ve even said it out of spite. Majority of the time it’s true… but really. People use it for the following reasons:

-To see if someone is angry at you by making them say you miss them back.

-By missing pussy/dick and confusing that with actually missing the actual person.

-By just throwing it out there cause you are trying to win them back.

I’m sure there are other reasons, but these are the versions of ‘I miss you’ that have been used and I see right thru them like some clear fake spongebob Jordans. It annoys me, the ‘I Miss You’ is 2nd to people throwing the word ‘I Love You’ around.. it’s sickening and it’s sad.

I’ve experienced 2 versions of the new fake ‘I love you’. I’ve had exs of mine say they miss me, now what do they miss? Do they miss my intelligence? Presence? Witty sarcasm? Maybe my smile?

NO.

While one bluntly says he misses our sex life, I feel like throwing my phone out the door. Not because I still have feelings for him, that’s long gone.. but you would think with all the years we were together that’s the ONLY thing you miss? Well damn. That’s like a slap in the face… how about missing the way I was always there for you and your family, or how lovable or caring I was….or how about how I supported you in everything you did and showed up to EVERY event? Nah.. you just miss sex. Really tho? That just made me really wonder about my past relationship that I took ever so seriously, and contemplated marriage about.. was that really all that idiot got out of it? Blank muthafuck stare.

And the second one that misses me. I truly don’t know what he misses. I don’t bother responding because it’s like you had the best of my world and you still seemed to fuck it up. I seen this quote that actually meant something to me.

Take chances. Tell the truth. Date someone totally wrong for you. Say no. Say I love you. Sing out loud. Laugh at a stupid joke. Cry. Get revenge. Apologize. Tell someone how much they mean to you. Tell the asshole what you feel. Let someone know what they’re missing. Laugh till your stomach hurts.

And that’s what I did one year, I dated someone totally wrong for me. Which I knew, but I decided to say hey fuck it.. he has to treat me right cause he’s totally wrong for me but what the hell I like him.. he’s smart, cute, and funny.. but completely wrong so he should know what this is like hitting the lotto of good women.

But did he realize that?

NO. He fucked up, big time. And didn’t think I would do a damn thing about it.People seem to forget how much of a bitch I can be because I am so kind. So does he miss me? NO. If he missed me like he says he wouldn’t have fucked up so epically the first time. So that miss you is invalid, and VOID like a muthafucka.

The moral of the story… stop telling me you miss me. I DONT MISS SHIT.

Sorry, I had to rant but I know some of y’all feel me though.. anyone have stories of the new fake ‘I Love You’?

-Lina

Great people are MADE.

To become a great person, you must go thru certain trial and tribulations to become great. It doesn’t happen overnight, it isn’t something that you are born with, there are things in your life that you go thru to turn you into that person. Without your past there would be no present, and without your past you can’t become great- because your past is what makes you who you are.

I always tell people.. that anyone can change, however they just must be WILLING to do so. Changing requires hardwork, that’s why people who are lazy remain in the same spot, and same place because they aren’t willing to put in the work to make changes. No matter what industry, profession, or way you have came up from wherever you was at.. you had to change, you had to progress and you had to move forward to reach the top. For example, even reality show bitches, they had to make the videos, or write the letters just to get on the show, and among other things as well just to be considered for the show, do you think a lazy person or someone with any smarts is gonna do that? Some people can’t even fill out their own job application. So with that being said, if you see someone at the top of their game.. no matter what they do.. you gotta salute them, because it wasn’t laying around not doing shit that got them there- they put in some type of work, even if you may not agree with it.

Knowing how to and moving forward separates you from the ordinary, which makes you extraordinary. The people who become satisfied with way they are at.. at a job that’s not a career, in a relationship that they don’t necessarily want to be in, in a rock and a hard place will never succeed because they are fine with where they are at, they assume that this is as good as life will get. They’ll take that boring 9 to 5 if they can have a Charger and a nice apartment, or they’ll stay in a relationship with a guy who isn’t their type but treats them right cause they will take what they can get, or they are satisfied being somewhere they really hate. And my bxtches, that’s the difference between the haves and the have-nots.

Which one are you? It’s up to you to decide, not fate, not your karma.. YOUR actions.

Jay-Z said a beautiful quote the other day… and I haven’t been the same since but this the realest shit he ever wrote type shit.

“I believe every single person in the world is born with genius level talent. You just got to find out what it is that you are a genius at. I don’t believe that God would take one person and say ‘You’ you’re special…I ain’t no muthafuckin different than anybody here tonight and I’m standing on this stage as living proof, you apply yourself to what it is you’re a genius at and you can do anything in the world.” – Jay Z

That was an amen, and the holy ghost all in one paragraph.

I see potential in every person around me, it’s about whether they decide to use it or not. Use your potential, live life so you won’t ask ‘what if’ or regret a move. Never let your past dictate your present or your future…use your past as lessons for the future…not punishment for why you shouldn’t do the things you love, and enjoy life. Life is about risks…. get you some.

“A friend is someone who knows your song and sings it to you when you have forgotten it. Those who love you are not fooled by mistakes you have made or dark images you hold about yourself. They remember your beauty when you feel ugly; your wholeness when you are broken; your innocence when you feel guilty; and your purpose when you are confused.”

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A Free Bxtch Guide To Dealing with a Break-Up

Breaking up is so hard to do, whether you are leaving a horrible situation or a horrible situation is leaving you, either way there are coping mechanisms that I’ve learned over the years to deal with moving forward. Moving forward is important bxtches, because if you don’t move forward you don’t progress, and if you don’t progress you remain in the same spot while everyone is moving past you.

So here is my guide to keeping sanity during a break-up and moving forward:

1. Retail therapy, there is nothing like treating yourself to the finer things in life. If you are a Free Bxtch, being in a relationship probably cost you a little bit of money (you know buying each other gifts on anniversaries, birthdays, christmas etc) you are single now so why not splurge a little on yourself? Instead of that $300 dollar gift you would buy him on his birthday buy you a pair of shoes, treat yourself to a spa day.. enjoy spending money all on YOU and enjoy every ounce of it.

2. During a break-up I live by my favorite motto: Although I feel shitty on the inside, I refuse to look that way on the outside. So no matter how you may feel on the inside, there is nothing like getting dressed going out and watching all eyes on you- which is a nice way to keep a smile on your face.

3. NO BREAK-UP MUSIC. By all means cry it out, listen to Trey Songz – Heart Attack… but after those few hours of crying and letting it all out- suck it up. Put some Trina on to feel powerful and raise your self esteem, then some Jay-Z on to show that you are unstoppable again and nothing will break you, then put on some Nicki Minaj for some inspiration.

My favorite albums for dealing with a break-up
Jay-Z Kingdom Come & Blue Print 2,3
Trina – The Glamourest Life
Nicki Minaj – Pink Friday

4. Watch funny movies or TV shows. My favorite movie that kept me sane during a hard break-up when I was going thru it was ‘Two Can Play that Game’ I remember being in high school taking notes of how to get your man back. Although I don’t suggest these games, cause in the end of the movie it didn’t truly work out the way she planned…but Vivica had some good points in that movie that we may need to take note to.

When I was going through a horrible day one of my exs mom told me to watch something funny, and it would always cheer me whenever something was wrong- laughter is the cure to everything. Another break-up I went thru I watched all the seasons of ‘South Park’.. I am so thankful for the sanity that was given by that show. Also, ‘Friends’ kept me pretty sane too, I know all the episodes by heart. .

5. Surround yourself with your friends and family, during a break-up it kept me sane there’s nothing like being around friends and family that make you laugh to cheer you up.

6.Do not social network stalk. To truly get over someone you may have to delete a number and delete them from all your social network applications. Seeing someone continually after a break-up delays the process, and may lead you to go back and regress or get depressed from seeing their tweets or instagram, which may delay your progress or take steps back into the relationship. You don’t want to get stuck in an on-and-off again situation that lasts for 3 years and then you wonder why you didn’t just move on. Don’t be that person, that looks back and tries to beat a dead horse. Don’t be afraid to move forward

7. Roller coasters. Sounds crazy right? According to a study I read a few months back, roller coasters are known to relieve stress. I remember this one time I was at the state fair and I was terrified of roller coasters, until I decided to hop on one. I was walking around and, I so happened to see my ex-boyfriend whom I just broke up with that day at the fair with another girl holding hands. I walked right past them and kept my composure but I wanted to really scream, I remained calm but I really wanted to break down on the inside. That night I was no longer in fear of anything, cause I had no regard for my life that night (dramatic right? but I was just in 10th grade) so I got on the scariest ride at the fair( mind you I was at a FAIR how safe are their rides?) That scary ride was a stress reliever, it made me feel better I just let go all of my worries riding upside down and twirling around on that ride. That year I rode EVERY single ride at the fair, and until this day I love getting on rides.

8. Read a book. When all else fails, read a book to inspire you, when I was going thru a horrible break-up-(lol all of them sound horrible don’t they?) I got tired of retail therapy- you can only shop so much before it got boring, and I decided to spend my hours in Barnes & Noble. I was caught up in the astrology, relationship, biography and new-age section. To each is own, but books are fantastic because not only can you escape from your current situation but you can derive inspiration from other’s mishaps and misfortunes as well.

9. Find a hobby. Throwing yourself into something else to get your mind off things is very beneficial for getting over a break-up. I’ve joined a soccer team, took up yoga, and fitness- not to get my mind off things but to get my anger off somewhere healthy instead of in other places- such as his face, or his processions. The outcome of a hobby that keeps you fit is a fantastic body after a break-up .

10. Pursue your dreams. Fall in love with your goals, the rest will find its course. I went through a hard break-up, and decided to go to school because I had too much time on my hands while being single which led me to find my career path, and which eventually led me to start Free Bxtch Island in the end. So ladies, the best way to deal with a break-up that ensures the best outcome for you is to pursue your goals don’t be too hung up on the past or your future relationships because everything will set its course in the process.

I’ll end it on this wonderful quote by Lady Gaga, who is the Queen of Free Bxtch Island.

“Some women choose to follow men, and some women choose to follow their dreams. If you’re wondering which way to go, remember that your career will never wake up and tell you that it doesn’t love you anymore.”

And remember you all are beautiful women, the future only gets better so don’t be too hung up on your past.

xoxo C